7
Habits of Highly Successful Students
Habit
5
5.
Seek First to Understand, and then to be Understood
Because
most people don’t listen very well, one of the great frustrations in life is
that many don’t feel understood. This habit will ensure your teen learns the
most important communication skill there is: active
listening. Why
is this habit the key to communication? It’s because the deepest need of the
human heart is to be understood. Everyone wants to be respected and valued for
who they are---a unique, on-of-a-kind, never-to-be-cloned individual. People
won’t expose their soft middles unless they feel genuine love and understanding.
Once they feel it, however, they will tell you more than you may want to hear.
People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care. Listen
with your eyes, heart, and ears. 7 present of communication is contained in the
words we use. The rest comes from body language (53 percent) and how we say
words, or the tone and feeling reflected in our voice (40
percent).
Most
people are eager to talk and had rather talk than listen. We have one mouth and
two ears. This means we should listen twice as much as we talk. We actually
learn more while listening rather than when we talk. Listen to learn and learn
to listen.
Listen,
really listen, for understanding.
Seek
first to understand then to be understood-- LISTEN.
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